tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post7218077550672217179..comments2023-07-15T07:24:58.387-04:00Comments on Center for Family Development Blog: Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy Identified as an Effective Treatment by UK InstituteArthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-59952585698057088452011-06-19T18:54:43.919-04:002011-06-19T18:54:43.919-04:00Thanks so much for your comment and question. The...Thanks so much for your comment and question. They raise a number of very important points. <br />I generally don't think of children who have experienced chronic early maltreatment within a caregiving relationship as manipulative. People learn adaptive ways of related that are grounded in their past experiences. So, I view a child's behavior as being grounded in what may have "made sense" in a prior world, so to speak. <br />As a mandated reporter your role is not to evaluate a claim of abuse but to report what is, in your professional opinion and in accordance with your jurisdictions statutes, abuse. <br />Rather than thinking of consequences, which is often a polite way of saying punishment, I'd focus on the relationship and on what needs to happen to repair the damage that may have been done to the relationship by the other person's actions. I'd first try to understand the child's view, the underlying affect that drove the behavior. By being accepting of the child's emotions and then being curious you will ultimately discover the meaning of the actions for the child. Once that is know and understood by all, repairing the relationship (by, for example, helping you sort papers or something else that will help you feel better) will be easy and the child will participate because what you are doing is not punishment, retribution, shaming, etc. Generally when a child becomes dysregulated that probably means that the adult has not understood the child and not been attuned to the child's view and the child's emotional experience and has missed something of vital importance. It is your job to keep the relationship and child regulated...to keep a healing PACE.Arthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-10760743232566151672011-06-19T15:49:27.041-04:002011-06-19T15:49:27.041-04:00As a teacher, how can I see the difference between...As a teacher, how can I see the difference between "triangulation", manipulation from a child with attachment disorders and true abuse in foster care, which is not too rare either? I have an obligation to report abuse if I see it!<br /><br />How can I "follow through with all and any consequences" without appearing to be an almighty adult reigning on a child without rights? <br /><br />Should I follow through even if my "consequences" provoke very bad fits of rage in the child, which could otherwise be avoided?Ilanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05292365558266518895noreply@blogger.com