tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post5971866907767596713..comments2023-07-15T07:24:58.387-04:00Comments on Center for Family Development Blog: Ten Take-Away PontsArthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-15113692264752056822009-08-20T08:39:00.502-04:002009-08-20T08:39:00.502-04:00Dear Brenda,
I agree. I did not mean to denigrat...Dear Brenda,<br /><br />I agree. I did not mean to denigrate the role of the therapist; I merely want to underscore how important are parents. Since parents live with the child, and since attachment problems are relationship problems that require treatment of and in the relationship, it is vital that the therapist work through the parents.Arthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-70111516154323012612009-08-19T23:31:07.804-04:002009-08-19T23:31:07.804-04:00Dr Becker-Weidman,
While I do believe the parents...Dr Becker-Weidman,<br /><br />While I do believe the parents are vital in helping a child to heal I also give great credit to our attachment therapist in teaching us what to do to create that change.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-76084619353099216342009-08-18T08:54:09.014-04:002009-08-18T08:54:09.014-04:00Dear BeckyJoie,
Thanks for your comments. I thin...Dear BeckyJoie,<br /><br />Thanks for your comments. I think being a professional and having worked with hundreds of families gives me some perspective. I would also note that the parents who live with children who have disorders of attachment and trauma know alot. In fact I often say that they are the real agents of change and healing. When things go well, 75% to 80% of the credit goes to the family for creating a healing home.Arthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-67801349940952966052009-08-18T08:47:54.663-04:002009-08-18T08:47:54.663-04:00I am browsing on your blog and enjoying the read. ...I am browsing on your blog and enjoying the read. I agree with you that sympathy and understanding go a long way toward changing behavior. Of course, you would know better than I since that is your field.BeckyJoiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14148874214990884785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-89626496351034516872009-08-15T15:19:54.228-04:002009-08-15T15:19:54.228-04:00Thanks.
I try to stay current and keep people i...Thanks. <br /><br />I try to stay current and keep people informed of material that is useful.<br /><br />regards<br /><br />ArtArthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-89636482370804230462009-08-15T15:14:24.365-04:002009-08-15T15:14:24.365-04:00I love your blog. It gives me a place to go and ge...I love your blog. It gives me a place to go and get information based on research that is so very useful!!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-11315470245318434712009-08-15T09:21:12.178-04:002009-08-15T09:21:12.178-04:00Dear Brenda,
Good to hear from you again.Dear Brenda,<br /><br />Good to hear from you again.Arthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-63549249340812601812009-08-14T23:19:28.530-04:002009-08-14T23:19:28.530-04:00Oops. I'm sorry I did not see Dr. Becker-Weidm...Oops. I'm sorry I did not see Dr. Becker-Weidman had already answered in a much more complete way!!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-49736190963632603962009-08-14T23:17:35.744-04:002009-08-14T23:17:35.744-04:00Excellent points. I have GOT to take one of your c...Excellent points. I have GOT to take one of your classes!<br /><br />Michael~ My guess is that if your focusing on the behavior as strange or odd you are not focusing on giving empathy.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-45078541703733617852009-08-14T08:38:59.245-04:002009-08-14T08:38:59.245-04:00Good morning Doctor!
MichaelGood morning Doctor!<br /><br /> MichaelRADOnlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04692236536150808447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-692088936039404652009-08-12T20:26:29.093-04:002009-08-12T20:26:29.093-04:00Dear Dr. Weidman,
Yes, I have just activated yo...Dear Dr. Weidman,<br /><br /> Yes, I have just activated your account, and you may now post articles on site! <br /><br /> Just remember, that when you post, make sure that you select the appropriate category for that particular article.<br /><br /> I really enjoy what you have to write. And I totally agree with you. The biggest problem with R.A.D. in my mind is that those that suffer from it do horrendous things, almost to the point where it's prohibitive to understand/comprehend the act. <br /><br /> But that's just my take on it as a R.A.D. Survivor.<br /><br /> MichaelRADOnlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04692236536150808447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-52195967701371496332009-08-12T19:39:20.037-04:002009-08-12T19:39:20.037-04:00Dear Michael,
Thanks for the question. what I am...Dear Michael,<br /><br />Thanks for the question. what I am referring to is that all behavior has meaning and is adaptive. If some behavior appears to be odd or strange or incomprehensible, it is because we are not seeing the world through the other person's eyes; we don't have empathy.<br /><br />If we have empathy and are able to understand the world as the other person does, then the behavior will "make sense" within that context; although it may not be adaptive now in this family, it probably was adaptive in the past in that family.<br /><br />does this make sense now? <br /><br />BTW, I like you site and registered there. Would it be ok if I post some articles there?<br /><br />regards<br /><br />artArthur Becker-Weidman, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12336450524735140641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881396263864308560.post-8905524247701555742009-08-12T19:17:28.956-04:002009-08-12T19:17:28.956-04:00Dr. Weidman,
Brilliant write up! I like all of ...Dr. Weidman,<br /><br /> Brilliant write up! I like all of your points. I am however, confused with one point:<br /><br />3. Strange or odd behavior represents our lack of empathy. <br /><br /> What does this mean? Behavior from the child is caused by parents lack of empathy or the other way around?<br /><br /> Michael<br /> http://www.rad-online.orgRADOnlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04692236536150808447noreply@blogger.com